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NVC discourages static generalizations. It is said that "When we combine observation with evaluation others are apt to hear criticism and resist what we are saying. These are to be distinguished from thoughts e. Feelings are said to reflect whether we are experiencing our needs as met or unmet.
Identifying feelings is said to allow us to more easily connect with one another, and "Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. It is posited that "Everything we do is in service of our needs.
Requests are distinguished from demands in that one is open to hearing a response of "no" without this triggering an attempt to force the matter. If one makes a request and receives a "no" it is recommended not that one give up, but that one empathize with what is preventing the other person from saying "yes," before deciding how to continue the conversation.
It is recommended that requests use clear, positive, concrete action language. Self-empathy involves compassionately connecting with what is going on inside us. This may involve, without blame, noticing the thoughts and judgments we are having, noticing our feelings, and most critically, connecting to the needs that are affecting us.
It's not an understanding of the head where we just mentally understand what another person says Empathic connection is an understanding of the heart in which we see the beauty in the other person, the divine energy in the other person, the life that's alive in them It doesn't mean we have to feel the same feelings as the other person.
That's sympathy, when we feel sad that another person is upset.
It doesn't mean we have the same feelings; it means we are with the other person If you're mentally trying to understand the other person, you're not present with them. It is suggested that it can be useful to reflect a paraphrase of what another person has said, highlighting the NVC components implicit in their message, such as the feelings and needs you guess they may be expressing.
An observation may be omitted if the context of the conversation is clear. A feeling might be omitted if there is sufficient connection already, or the context is one where naming a feeling isn't likely to contribute to connection.
It is said that naming a need in addition to a feeling makes it less likely that people will think you are making them responsible for your feeling. Similarly, it is said that making a request in addition to naming a need makes it less likely that people will infer a vague demand that they address your need.
The components are thought to work together synergistically. According to NVC trainer Bob Wentworth, "an observation sets the context, feelings support connection and getting out of our heads, needs support connection and identify what is important, and a request clarifies what sort of response you might enjoy.
Using these components together minimizes the chances of people getting lost in potentially disconnecting speculation about what you want from them and why. Since that time, the number of publications reporting research on NVC has more than doubled. Eleven of these suggested an increase in empathy subsequent to the application of NVC five of these with evidence of statistical significance and two did not.
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Verbal communication refers to the use of sounds and language to relay a message. It serves as a vehicle for expressing desires, ideas and concepts and is vital to the processes of learning and teaching.
The good way of expressing you is either through creative pursuit or by speaking your heart out. When speaking out, you will free your mind and connect you to the here and now. Almost everything we do is a form of creative expressions of our inner self. Irene Hansen Savarese, LMFT - Effective communication is respectful communication.
Here's how to express yourself candidly while also maintaining your cool. Man, I wish I wrote this. I’ve never been an emotionally unavailable man.
Even when I was in my ten-year-online-dating-slut phase, I always wanted to fall in love. Being able to express yourself clearly and being able to listen well can help you avoid a great deal of stress in your closest relationship.
Unfortunately, we are more likely to communicate.